Your children are not Your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for Itself. They come through You but not from You, and though They are with You, yet They belong not to You. The first time I read this understanding in The Prophet, written by Kahlil Gibran, I was blown away. I had just given custody of My two children away to Their father and I felt a void in Me that needed healing. This awareness did that for Me. It took years to really grasps its depths… Years of grieving the loss of Motherhood was weaved into My own path and journey. That was just it though. It was My path… My Journey… and I thought to Myself… The children both have Their own journey as well. I had one of My sons vision boards tucked away that clearly stated He wanted to live with His Dad. The healing was realizing that I was serving the children by being able to detach from the need to own the children. Detached from having to be the perfect Mother. Detached from trying to do something different than My own Mother. I was healing. I was letting go. I was understanding the depths to that awareness from Kahlil simply by gifting the custody to Their father and His wife.

Then fast forward several years I would find My life partner and conceive Our first child together. This was not only a second opportunity at Motherhood… this was a second opportunity to understand the depths of Mr. Gibran's words…

This little girl was born through Me. She is a product of Life’s longing for Itself… and I have the honor of holding space for this possibility. I have the privilege of simply loving Her without any expectations on Myself or Her. I simply get to Love this new Life. I get to witness Her becoming moment to moment. I get to experience Her blossom into whatever Her purpose and passion that She was created for. Life is happening for Her and I am here to support Her in every way. So how does one Consciously Parent a child that does not belong to Them?

We simply stay out of the way and allow Life to happen.

When We plant seeds in Our gardens… all We do is make sure the plants get enough Water and Sunlight. We make sure They are protected from weather that could cause damage and We give Our love to their possibilities. Then We witness a beautiful and abundant Garden grow. We never dig up the seeds to check if the roots are there. We never scold the plant for growing in a direction We didn’t expect. We never hurt the plants.

To consciously parent Our children We genuinely have to understand who They are, not who We want Them to be. We have to move Our egos and minds out of the way and just Love Our children. We have to stay present moment to moment and meet reality on realities terms. We have to stay patient and supportive. We have to keep Them safe without limiting Them. And We can never impose Our own beliefs or fears upon Them. We have to trust that on the deepest layers of Their being They are already perfect and will grow into a reflection of the Divine…. ONLY if We do not get in the way or turn Them into small copies and replicas of Ourselves. We have to consciously be aware of every action We make knowing They are also witnessing Us. We have to be responsible in every aspect of Our own journey for We are an example of what Life looks like to Them. We must stay present and never enter the mind when it comes to Our parenting opportunities. Conscious Parenting is a 24/7 consistent effort that not only allows the unfolding of Creation right before Our eyes… it’s also an opportunity for You to be the best version of Yourself day to day.

Our children will develop Minds that only have feedback from what They have witnessed. They will not know what or how to think. They will depend on You to guide and support Them. It is imperative that We hold a sacred space for children to become the best versions of Themselves. We owe it to Them. They deserve love and a peaceful environment from the very beginning. Conscious Parenting can only happen if the Parent is also doing The Work on Themselves.

Every day I grow more and more into the experience of Motherhood. I have always felt, in the words of Sadhguru, I am the Mother to all things. This mantra allows Me to love My daughter Ishaa in the same way I love the Sun, the Tree, the insect, the Wind, Gravity, the Flower, the animal, and microorganisms… all of Life is expressing itself and all We have to do is Love it all. Consciously I parent. Consciously I move through My human experience while I host the children through Theirs.